Why Being Honest Counts

Posted on March 7, 2012 by

When you enter a new relationship or meet someone on a date it is really important to understand that being honest counts a lot. Actually it matters even before the first date, it matters when you first chat to that person.

Honesty counts even more if you really like the person and secretly hope that it will lead to a long term relationship. If you lie about anything you will almost certainly be found out at some point further down the line and this will lead to trust issues and cause pain to the person that you most want to like you for who you are.

Common mistakes are saying that you have a high powered job when you really have a much more ordinary one. We all want to impress and exaggerating is something we all do but a down right lie is another thing altogether.

Telling someone about your favourite things when all you are doing is mentioning the things that you know they prefer already. Everything you lie about in the beginning will eventually catch you out later at some point.

You have to remember that the person who you are talking to will like or dislike you because you are you. The last thing you need if you want a long term relationship is for that person to start liking the wrong you. Effectively you will making them see a different person. Often couples break up after a few months and it is quite often because one of them is now finding out the real truth about their partner.

This is sad because not only does the person who lied lose out but it also causes pain to the other party as well, and that should be the last person you want to hurt.

Lack of honesty breaks down trust. How can anyone trust when they have caught someone out not telling the truth, and trust is the building block of any relationship that is a fact.

So when you meet someone for the first time try and keep things honest. Focus on the positives and be yourself at all times. What you are really after is for someone to like you because of who you are, and that can never happen if you start of by not being honest.

Also you will be far more relaxed in yourself because you will have the confidence to know that you are talking about what is real. It is actually quite difficult to be false and still give a good impression. Actors have to train to be able to be convincing when playing the part of a different person after all.

In the long run you will find that honesty counts.